Parenting during the coronavirus pandemic is exceptionally challenging. You don’t have the luxury of dropping your kids off at school, dropping them off at daycare, having the nanny come over, going to the public park or library, going out to eat, or having amazing playdates.
Now the pressure is on you to keep them entertained and occupied all day long.
If this is your plight, don’t fret. I’ve got you. Here are some simple ways to survive being cooped up with your kids all day.
1) Create a simple schedule
One thing that many parents do to make this transition easier, is to have a simple schedule. You do not have to map out every minute of every day, but a flexible schedule can be helpful in giving your kids structure.
That way you don’t feel like you’re raising wild chickens on a farm.
If you are working from home, ensure that the schedule works for you. Because your kids’ lives are no longer determined by the school schedule, you get to make your own! That’s actually a great thing.
The easiest tasks to plan out are meal times and bed times. But I’m sure you probably already have meal times in your home. Keep meal times and bedtime the same, so that the transition to normal life isn’t too hard when they have to go back to school.
Once you’ve chosen meal times and a bed time, it’s time to actually plan activities.
If your kids are school aged, chances are that they are homeschooling. Throw in a few of their school subjects (Math, ELA, Science), give them many breaks in between, and they should be good. Luckily, many schools aren’t just throwing parents in the wind. They are giving them some work and websites to play on.
If you feel confused about what your child should be doing academically, reach out to your child’s teacher for some tips. This is also a great time to reach out to other friends who are in the same boat. Remember, you are not alone. Pretty much most parents in the world are going through this with you.
Also add clean up time and chore time on your schedule. Chores help kids learn vital life skills. They also create a sense of independence and competence.
Ensure that you include a time when your child can hang out with you. This is an amazing time to secure that parent-child bond. Yes, even teenagers need time with mom and dad.
Let’s not forget that self care is incredibly important during this season. If you’re not taking care of yourself, things become increasingly frustrating. Here is a link to some healthy habits you can incorporate for yourself.
2) Include time for free play
Although schedules are great for kids- because predictable lives help kids feel safe- do not over schedule them.
Just like no adult can go 8 hours without some type of break, your kids also need to be kids.
Little ones do well when they are able to just roam around the house using their imagination. Elf course you want to secure cabinets and other areas that could present safety hazards. Encourage the kids to get off the couch and just move.
I personally love the Nintendo Wii and other gaming systems that encourage movement. Of course, there has to be a fine line. You don’t want your kids staring at a screen all day, You get to decide how much screen time is too much.
Many parents are also using Go noodle as a way to get their kids moving and shaking. And if you want to get the kids moving without using screens, put on some music so the kids can just dance. You can even join in the fun.
Younger kids can build forts (yes, I know they look a mess, but they are so enjoyable), play with Legos, draw, color or paint. Older kids can also create art, read and engage in all sorts of crafts. They don’t have to sit in front of video games all day.
You are only limited by your imagination.
3) Stay connected virtually
One of the toughest things about social distancing is that kids are disconnected from their friends. They don’t get playdates, they don’t get to run around the neighborhood, and they do not get to engage in their usual extracurricular activities.
Enter technology.
Virtual playdates can help to maintain social connections. Create blocks of time when your kids can call friends on the phone or even video chat with them.
I recently discovered a app called Marco Polo. It’s pretty cool. You get to send short video messages to your loved ones. Both you and your kids will probably enjoy this.
Although this isn’t the same as an in person connection, it’s much better than being all alone. So get creative.
4) Let the kids help you
If your kids are old enough, now is the time to get your house in tip top shape. If you already have daily or weekly chores for your kids, make sure you continue with those.
And if you don’t, now could be a good time to implement new ones.
You do not have to use the word ‘Chore.’ You can say ‘Responsibilities,’ or ‘Tasks.’ Truth is every human has to have chores.
If you’re an entrepreneur, your business is an endless list of chores. If you’re a parent, keeping your kids alive is a series of chores. If you are an employee, keeping your job is an endless list of chores. Starting them young only prepares them for the future.
Chores are simply life skills that help your kids become healthy, successful adults.
Embed the chores into your daily schedule. You could have them make their beds each morning, put away their dishes, fold laundry or put their toys away.
Here is a blog post that details a bunch of age appropriate chores for kids.
Start with 1 or 2 chores, then build up from there. Your kids will thank you when they become competent adults!
5) Help your kids understand the new normal
This is a stressful and uncertain time for a lot of people. And of course, as a parent, you don’t have all the answers.
Explain the situation as best you can. Little ones definitely have no idea what a virus is, so maybe help them understand that we have to stay in our bubble for a little while.
For older kids, you could explain what a virus is, and let them know why we are actually practicing social distancing.
There is no need to go over numbers, charts and all the gritty details with them. Let them be kids. But reframe this situation as our new normal. Naturally, some kids will feel afraid. This is the time to validate their feelings, offer them comfort and let them know that you will be here with them.
I highly suggest keeping the news turned off so that kids aren’t terrified. Their little brains cannot possibly process what’s going on.
Because social distancing is such an unknown thing, structure will help kids feel safe and loved. But if the house feels chaotic, it could make them feel so much more uneasy.
Check in with them daily or every few days so that they can share their thoughts with you. Nothing connects a child to a parent more than love and attention.
How is social distancing affecting you and your household?
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