Christian Therapist for women of color with anxiety and insomnia throughout CA
The holidays are upon us. If you happen to be blessed with amazing family dynamics, then you’re probably looking forward to sitting down to a good meal with your loved ones. But if you are like millions of people out there, you cringe at the thought of yet another family gathering. Because your family is known for shade, side eyes, underhanded comments, and a general feeling of thick tension in the air.
Well, never fear, here are some simple tips to help you survive the holidays this year.
Sometimes when you're speaking to your partner, you get so upset and you say the wrong thing.
Before the words come out of your mouth you instinctively know that you have hit below the belt. The great news is that no matter what you say to your partner, you can still repair your relationship with them. As a therapist in the Temecula area who provides marriage counseling, I’ve probably seen and heard it all.
“I think my family is under a generational curse.”
This is a statement that I have heard over and over again. Sometimes people even go as far as to say that certain traits like anger, a loud tone of voice or impatience are part of the generational curse on their family.
When we believe that our parents’ traits (like a hot temper), is a curse, we resign to the idea that we are destined to repeat the cycles of the past.
We all know that our behavior and the way we show up in the word, is a result of both nature and nurture. Some of us were born with a certain temperament, and then our environment also shapes us into who we are. But some grew up with family members that didn’t quite pour into us the way that they should. When we think of family, many of us think of kindness, warmth and validation, but for others, family relationships are quite complicated.
Parenting during the coronavirus pandemic is exceptionally challenging. You don’t have the luxury of dropping your kids off at school, dropping them off at daycare, having the nanny come over, going to the public park or library, going out to eat, or having amazing playdates.
Now the pressure is on you to keep them entertained and occupied all day long.
If this is your plight, don’t fret. I’ve got you. Here are some simple ways to survive being cooped up with your kids all day.
