There is no loss that compares to losing someone you love. No preparation can make you completely ready for it, and it affects every aspect of life including sleep. While nothing can replace the feeling of having your beloved next to you at night, there are ways you can improve the quality of sleep you get and thereby improve your overall wellbeing. Here are some suggestions to help you through this difficult time.
Don’t Stay Still
While there are no instant cures for losing sleep after a loved one’s passing, there are ways you can take care of yourself even in your darkest moments. Nurture yourself by engaging in physical activity. Go for a long run in the morning, take your dog for a walk during a break from work, or take a class at your local gym in the evening.
At times it can seem impossible to do almost anything when grieving, but it’s important for both your mental and physical health to stay active. To best support healthy sleep habits, Healthline recommends engaging in light to moderate exercise between 60–90 minutes before bed. They suggest exercises that include yoga, stretching, walking or swimming, and light weightlifting.
Make the Best Sleep Environment
It is important to know the difference between gadgets that will assist you in falling asleep and things that are simply a waste of money. While there are plenty of apps designed to help you rest, Nuvanna says it’s wise to rid your sleeping space of unnecessary electronics. The blue light from the screens on your phone, tablet, or electronic reader can inhibit your body from producing melatonin.
If your mattress is around 10 years old, it may be negatively affecting your sleep and time to get a new one. When purchasing a mattress, consider your sleep position, as this will affect what material you need and how firm it should be. Back sleepers need a firm bed while stomach sleepers require different support to keep from sinking.
Learn Calming Techniques
If you struggle to calm your mind at night, sleeping will be difficult. Fortunately, there are relaxation exercises you can do to help you let go of thoughts while in bed. One such technique is to focus on deep breathing. As you breathe in, feel the air entering your lungs and try to picture it moving through your body.
Progressive relaxation is another great way to distract your mind and let your body unwind naturally, according to Psychology Today. Focus on one area of your body at a time and intentionally relax it, slowly progressing until your whole body is relaxed. If you need something more tangible, however, you could try taking a bath at the end of your day. Use bath bombs, essential oils, or bath salts to help you experience deep relaxation.
Honor Their Memory with a Nonprofit
One profound way you can honor the departed while also giving yourself something positive to focus on is to create a nonprofit in your loved one’s honor. Formation services can help you through the process of setting things up, and it can be an invaluable step on the road to making peace with your loss. If you’re not sure how to get started, there are helpful guides available that lay out the process and everything it entails. Just remember that starting a nonprofit—even a small one—requires a lot of hard work.
Eat for Sleep
What you eat and drink can also affect how well you sleep at night. If you find yourself agitated or restless in the evenings, drinking caffeine or alcohol may only make this worse. Both drinks cannot only prevent you from falling asleep but may also interfere with your ability to remain asleep. Be mindful of when you consume caffeine or alcohol relative to your bedtime.
There are many foods that can help improve your sleep, but there are also foods that can make sleep more difficult. Try to avoid foods that are high in acidity, sugar, and fat. Acid can upset your stomach when you lie down, and fatty foods can increase your stomach’s production of acid. Foods heavy in protein can take a long time to digest, which can also keep you awake. Lastly, avoid foods that act as a diuretic. If you have to get up several times during the night to use the bathroom, you are not getting adequate rest.
If you’ve recently lost a loved one, you may be experiencing difficulty sleeping. This can exacerbate the stress you may already be feeling. While there is no instant solution for troubled sleep, these tips will help you ensure that you’re taking the necessary steps to prioritize healthy sleep during this difficult time.
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