Marriage can be sweet, but anyone married for more than six months will tell you that it is no easy feat to join your life with someone else.
If you have been struggling with your marriage, marriage counseling in Houston is a great way to explore being close to each other again.
Here are 4 reasons why you just might need a couples therapist in Houston.
1) Your friends and family are NOT marriage counseling experts
Your marriage was your decision, not your friends’ and other family members’. It’s okay to discuss your problems with friends, but do not make decisions about your marriage based on conversations you have with them.
However, a quick word of caution about going to your friends and family. Some of them will tell you what they think you want to hear. Some of them will be biased and defend you- even when you are in the wrong. And others are hoping that your marriage fails, so they give you horrific advice. Many try their best, but it turns out that their advice will do more damage to your relationship.
Imagine taking medical advice from a mechanic? That’s what could happen when you lean on friends and family solely for marriage advice.
2) No one ever taught you what a sustainable, happy marriage looks like
Through your struggles, it’s important to remember that most of us have no idea what a healthy godly marriage should be and how to get to that happy marriage. Maybe you are copying the type of marriage you grew up seeing. If the marriage was tumultuous, you are copying the wrong blueprint.
Very few people go to premarital counseling before getting married. They assume that love will be enough. A great marriage counselor or couples therapist inHouston can show you the proper roadmap to a successful, committed marriage.
I’m a Christian marriage therapist in Houston who helps couples create spicy, happy marriages. And if you are a Christian looking to have a Christ-centered marriage, seek Christian marriage counseling in Houston that can integrate faith into the couples counseling sessions. Click here to schedule your free consultation call with me.
3) Your couples communication skills are much worse than you think
Many people think they are great at communicating their needs with their spouses. But when you come into couples therapy in Houston, you will learn why you’ve had years of communication breakdown and pain.
Many people only communicate according to their upbringing. Half the time, you think you’re being transparent, but your spouse has no clue what you mean. A big part of couples therapy is learning how to get your point across in a way your spouse can understand. When I teach healthy communication skills during couples therapy session, couples are surprised at their lack of communication skills. But the good thing is that we can teach excellent communication.
4) You need a space where you can focus on your marriage
Marriage can be difficult. It gets even more complicated once you introduce kids, a house, a dog, a busy schedule, and other external responsibilities. Many couples struggle to find time for one another, and after a few years of being busy, marriage can quickly become a roommate or work partner situation.
You sleep in the same bed and live in the same house, but you no longer feel a strong connection to one another. You stay together for the kids or for financial reasons, but deep inside, you know you want more.
Marriage counseling in Houston or couples therapy in Houston is an opportunity for you to spend some time rebuilding your lost friendship. You’ll learn how to talk to each other, truly connect again, and finally nip those annoying arguments in the bud.
If you are ready to stop being roommates and create a passionate and long-lasting marriage, click here to schedule your free 15-minute consultation call. I’m a Black Christian marriage therapist in Houston whose goal is to help Christian couples create spicy, enjoyable, and irresistible marriages.
About the Author
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
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