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When Communication Feels Impossible: A Christian Wife’s Guide to Being Heard Without Starting a Fight

Tired of every conversation turning into conflict? This guide offers highly sensitive Christian wives practical, grace-filled tools to speak up—and feel heard—without fueling a fight. Read now to start changing the way you connect.

Why Christian Marriages Still Struggle with Communication

Sometimes Christians falsely believe that their marriages are going to be extremely easy and they will not face any challenges. We sometimes romanticize the perfect marriage with the white picket fence. This does not exist anywhere. Rather, healthy marriages are usually a product of work, faith and consistency. Most couples who are in healthy marriages have actually mastered the art of communication and friendship. Simply being a Christian but not implementing your Christian values is not going to lead to the perfect marriage that you've dreamt about.

You sometimes believe that your husband will automatically understand you and give you what you need without you actually communicating it with him. Being a Christian doesn’t automatically delete your personality, your family background, traumas you’ve experienced in the past and much more. Being a Christian also doesn’t automatically give you the ability to read your wife’s mind. Your husband only gets to know you through good communication.

Sometimes it is difficult for high achieving Christian wives to express their needs in marriage because they're so used to carrying a heavy load, that it is uncomfortable for them to share it with their husbands. Perhaps for some women, they grew up with a lot of responsibility and nobody ever checked up on them. It is the idea of the strong woman who carries everybody on her shoulders, but nobody stops to see if her shoulders are hurting. And maybe they have tried to express their needs once or twice, but it proved futile. So they just stop asking altogether.

The fear of conflict also plays a role. Maybe you grew up in an environment in which things were swept under the rug. Or maybe you were criticized for asking for what you needed. Or maybe nobody ever asked you about your needs, so you assume that your needs are unimportant. Perhaps you have asked your husband in the past for what you want, and he has ignored you or follow through haphazardly. So this is an issue of trying again. Learning to trust him again. And if you are married to an intellectual, strong willed man, your faith doesn't cancel out the need for effective communication. Rather it necessitates it.

The High-Achiever’s Dilemma: Strong in Every Area but the Marriage

There are a lot of women who are highly accomplished professionally and personally, are the top of the careers, manage large teams, are great mothers, they do lots of philanthropy and community work, but they feel completely unseen at home. This can come with a lot of guilt and shame. Because you are a big deal outside of your household. But you feel invalidated and unseen within your household. It is an awkward dilemma that begins to eat at your self-esteem. The world tells you that you are great, but the person whom you want to hear that from most of all acts like you are nothing.

And when you are somebody who is used to achieving at a high-level and managing large teams, sometimes you feel like you should be able to figure your marriage out by yourself. “After all, billions of people around the world are married and they seem to be figuring it out, so why should I need help?”

Wrong.

We can use your career as an example. Chances are you did not teach yourself everything. You went to school, you had mentors, you have colleagues, you also have lots of resources that you refer back to in order to perform at the high level that you do. You did not figure your career out by yourself. Even in the motherhood sphere, chances are you do have resources to help you.

So then why is it that in your marriage you suddenly assume that you should have it all figured out? That is simply unrealistic. Nobody who has a healthy marriage is figuring things out on their own. They utilize their resources. They work on their friendship and communication day in and day out. They make mistakes, they have arguments, but they have been able to learn how to push past the arguments and learn one another.

You probably might also be over functioning in your marriage. At work, you easily delegate tasks to people and you’re great at time management. But in your marriage, it is difficult for you to ask for what you need. It is also difficult for you to trust your husband to carry some of the physical and mental load with you. From your husband's perspective, he thinks that you're doing all things well. You make everything look easy. But from your perspective, you are resentful, you are tired and you just want some help. The problem is that you are not speaking his language, and he is not speaking yours as well. So you're both living divergent lives, rather than parallel lives.

You are at the point of burn out. You might feel as if it will take you more time to ask for what you need than to get it done yourself. While this might seem like a good approach, in the long run it will only increase your resentment and drive a wedge between you and your husband. There will be a learning curve. If your husband has not been used to picking up his fair share of the load, he will drop the ball a lot of times, but as he has more practice, things will get better. You also will learn how to let go of perfectionism, ask for what you want and put yourself back on the burner. Because you matter.

Faithful and Frustrated: Communicating Without Disrespecting Your Values

One of the most important aspects of communication between spouses is being able to be kind but assertive at the same time. Assertiveness simply means that you are just as important as your husband. Being passive means that you are unimportant and your husband is important. And aggressiveness means that you are important, but your husband does not matter. We want to obviously be assertive – both of you are equally important.

It is also important to be able to regulate your emotions. Before you say something important to your husband, take a time out. Take some deep breaths, journal, call a friend who is great at communicating and who is also clear headed. Get your frustration out, cry, take a nap, do whatever it is that you need to get yourself back to baseline.

Then ask yourself why you are upset. This will help you in your communication with him. One you know the deep reason why you are upset, you’ll be able to tell him. Ensure that you watch your body language. Harsh body language will probably beget even more harsh body language. But soft body language and soft words will probably increase the chances of your husband being able to take in what you are saying. Let him know that you're about to say something that is important and that his undivided attention is needed. Pick the right time. Don’t delve into an important topic just before bedtime or when he’s working or tired. And of course watch your tone of voice. You would not want anyone yelling at you, so don't do that.

The interesting thing is that your one is also learning appropriate communication from you. As he begins to change the way you communicate with him, hopefully rub off on him. Remember that the Bible talks about speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), so it is OK to tell him what is actually going on. It is OK to let him know that you are in burn out. But it is not OK to be insulting or condescending towards him. Remember to do want to others as you would have them do onto you.

Lastly, James 1:19 says “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.“

Ready for Change? Christian Marriage Counseling in Houston Can Help You Be Heard

If you are ready to lay down your burdens and begin to trust your husband today, then perhaps marriage counseling in Houston is the right next step for you. Marriage therapy with me simply looks like teaching you practical tools that you can use to rebuild the friendship in your marriage. You will learn very easy but effective communication tools that you and your husband can use to begin to teach each other about each other.

You will learn what to do when things escalate. You will learn what to do when things feel awkward. You will learn how to move past those persistent arguments that have been coming up over and over again in your marriage. And the best thing about it is that we can break old generational cycles while honoring your biblical values. Because I am deeply convinced that God wants us all to have happy, healthy marriages. After all, God is the one who created the institution of marriage and we know that everything that He creates is good.

Even take a deep dive into your family background and upbringing, because so often we are carrying the burdens of our fathers and mothers, without even knowing it. And so it is important to look at family cycles of behavior that do not belong to us and to finally break it so that your household becomes a much more peaceful place. When you work with a Black Christian therapist who gets it you do not have to explain yourself too much. Because I get it. I must also warn you that therapy with me is not all serious. Sometimes I throw in a joke or two, because levity is important when we are healing.

If you’re a Christian woman feeling stuck in the same painful cycle with your spouse, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Let’s work together to rebuild clarity, connection, and calm in your marriage. Remember that you are not a bad wife, you are just simply somebody who needs support.
Schedule your free 15-minute consultation today for Christian marriage counseling in Houston with a Black therapist who understands the pressures of high-achieving women.



About Me

My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.

Many of my clients are:

Highly sensitive people

High performing women

People with insomnia

Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust

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Struggling to Speak Up? A Christian Therapist in Houston on How to Ask Your Non-HSP Husband for What You Need

Struggling to speak up in your marriage? My blog offers gentle guidance for highly sensitive Christian wives on how to express their needs without guilt or fear. Read now. Christian therapist in Houston, Black therapist Houston.

Understanding the Struggle: Why Asking for What You Need Feels Hard in Your Marriage

When you are a highly sensitive woman married to a non highly sensitive man or vice versa, it could feel like being married to an alien. While you might enjoy regular quiet time alone, you find him making all the noise and wanting to do more and more. While you want to process your feelings daily within the last inch of its life, he is fine giving you a one sentence answer at the end of the day. He wonders why seemingly small things bother you, or why you ruminate so much. You often feel as if he is cold, aloof and unfeeling, and he in turn, sometimes feels as if you are dramatic, you care too much and you don’t like people. And over time, you stop sharing your thoughts and feeing so much, you begin to process your day on your own, and you stop inviting your spouse into the deepest depths of your heart. While he has no idea that you have pulled back, you do, and it is building into resentment.

But whether you are highly sensitive or not, the Bible does lead us to use our listening ears very well. James 1:19 says "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." Notice how the scripture says everyone. Not ‘highly sensitive people’ or ‘husbands’ or ‘wives.’ Everyone should strive to listen twice a much as they speak. Even as a highly sensitive person, sometimes you get so swept up in your own emotions, your plans and your life, that you totally forgot to enter into your husband’s world. If he is not great at opening up, perhaps you could ask multiple follow up questions to help engage him in a dialogue. And let him know that your questions are for connection, not for interrogation.

How to Communicate Your Needs: Practical Steps for HSPs in Marriage

Even if your husband is not a highly sensitive person, chances are he does love you- after all why did he marry you? He might express his feelings in a different way than you, but remember that he does indeed love and care for you. The problem is he might not know how to love you in the way that you need, just like you might struggle to love him according to the way he needs. The solution is in communicating your needs effectively- so that he can begin to understand how he can serve you, ad you can also do the same for him.

Here are some practical ways to begin to build that bridge:

  • Take time to reflect before speaking. Think of times in the past when you and your husband were on the same page. What was special about it? Write it down. I find that reflecting on the positive- what you actually want and what has worked- is actually so much more effective than reflecting on what is broken in the relationship.

  • Time your conversations appropriately. It doesn’t matter what you say, but what matters is how you say it. Your tone, your attitude, your timing, your mood all play a great role in the success of a conversation. Let your spouse know that you want to talk to him about something important, and pick a time when both of you can be engaged and focused on the conversation. Put away electronics and other distractions.

  • Use “I” statements: I talk about this all the time because it helps to create an environment where both parties are open and it also puts defensiveness at bay. When you talk about “I” statements, the focus is on your experience, as opposed to pointing the finger at your partner. Most people are more than willing to hear you when you're focusing on your opinion and your emotions. When the conversation starts to move into blaming and insulting the other person, expect him to shut down.

  • Encourage your spouse: I believe in using the sandwich method, this is a way of communicating in which you can you talk about one good thing that your spouse has done, then in the middle you talk about the thing that you actually need or that you were trying to correct, and then you finish the conversation with another positive thing that your spouse has done. Because depending on how sensitive your spouse is or how strange your relationship is, sometimes if all your spouse ever hears about himself is what he's not doing well, this can feel very intimidating and demoralizing for him. But when he's here and more positive than negative, he is more likely to be open to correction.

    And of course in the spirit of Christian marriage counseling in Houston, it is important to bring everything back to the Bible. Matthew 18:15 says “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you.” You can poojtn out his fault in a gentle, loving and calm way. Being offended is not an excuse for rudeness or bad behavior. Remember that 2 wrongs don’t make a right.

    It might seem intimidating to utilize these skills on your own-especially if things are already tense at home, so that is why I am here. I guide my clients to develop practical communication skills through Christian marriage counseling in Houston. We get to practice together, I model healthy communication and you’ll get lots of homework so that you are practicing at home too.

Addressing the Fear of Rejection: Trusting God in the Vulnerability of Asking for Your Needs

One big reason why many highly sensitive women or even non-highly sensitive wives do not ask for what they want from their husbands is that they are afraid that they will be rejected. They feel like they have asked for what they want 1 million times and nothing has been done. They sometimes also feel as if their husband no longer loves them.

But remember that your feelings are not facts. If your husband does not love you, then why did he actually marry you? So sometimes we have to remove the illogical from our minds so that the practical can step forward. Practically, chances are that your husband does actually love you, but because of life, because you both have different personalities and temperaments, because of past hurts and pain, both of you have simply started to live divergent lives. And through Christian marriage counseling, we can hopefully work together to get the both of you back on track so that you can have the marriage that God intended for you. If we have to refer to Isaiah 41:10 it says “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Remember that God is the creator of marriage and His desire for all of us to he happily married as long as He is in the center of it. Please remember that God is with you in your vulnerability and he also is your strength.

But you must also take action and do the vulnerable thing, which is to speak up and ask for what you want. Regardless of past hurts. Couples I have worked with have been able to overcome this fear by leaning on their faith and finding support through Christian marriage counseling. They have been willing to accept that they do not have this marriage thing completely figured out, but they are willing to learn new skills and try things out in a different way. You hav ego too approach your spouse with courage and grace.

Why Working with a Black Christian Therapist in Houston Can Help You Speak Up and Strengthen Your Marriage

If your marriage has been struggling for a while, or if you feel like things could be better, it might be time to seek professional help. Now the scary statistic states that the average person who goes to marriage counseling waits at least six years from the start of their problems before seeking help. That is scary.

In six years you can attain both a bachelors and a masters degree, and in six years a newborn is in first grade. Imagine all of that time wasted when you could easily have a professional teach you the communication skills that you need to take your marriage to a deeper level. As a Black therapist in Houston who is also a Christian marriage counselor, it is important that I am able to help my Christian clients incorporate a biblical, faith perspective in their communication. It is also important that there is cultural understanding, so that I'm not asking you to become somebody that you are not. In fact, in your marriage and in our sessions, I like to dive into your differences in upbringing, your different personalities and if one of you is highly sensitive, I like to also educate the both of you about how high sensitivity plays an important role in one's communication style and attachment style.

Both of you are not supposed to be identical twins, but chances are you are struggling in your marriage because you are trying to have your spouse look just like you and vice versa. My job is to teach you how to have empathy, but also assertively ask for what you need. I also constantly remind you of your shared perspective as a couple. We cannot forget what brought you two together.

I believe that God has called us to love understand one another, and this is very important in a healthy marriage. Would it not be important for your couples therapist to share your faith and cultural background so that I can offer a deeper support and guidance? In my therapy approach we collaborate to create a new culture in your marriage that respects your individual differences as well as your biblical values. Because I believe that we cannot separate the word of God from who we are as husbands and wives.

Are you ready to embrace your sensitivity and strengthen your marriage with faith-based support? Schedule a free 15-minute consultation with a Black Christian therapist in Houston today, and take the first step towards open, loving communication in your relationship.



About Me

My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.

Many of my clients are:

Highly sensitive people

High performing women

People with insomnia

Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust

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Christian Marriage Counseling in Houston: How to Ask Your Non-HSP Husband for What You Need (Without Feeling Guilty)

Highly sensitive Christian wives often feel guilty asking for what they need in marriage. My blog offers faith-grounded encouragement and practical tools to speak up with confidence and care. Read now. Christian marriage counseling Houston, Black therapist Houston.

Understanding the Role of Vulnerability in Marriage: A Christian Perspective

When God designed marriage, He expected both the husband and the wife to be sacrificial and loving to one another. To love another is to be vulnerable and open with him/her. Afterall, can anyone ever know you well if you do not open yourself up to him? As a Christian marriage counselor, one of the struggles I see in married couples who are facing challenges is that the break in trust immediately affects their vulnerability. And the less vulnerability a couple has, the further apart they seem to drift.

Husbands are called to love their wives the way that Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her. Christ was beaten, insulted, spat upon, tortured and killed. And even though He knew this was going to happen, He happily descended from heaven, put on the body of a human and agreed to this. I’m not saying that husbands are going to be tortured, but I’m saying that marriage involves vulnerability and sacrifice. You will have days when you want to give up, days when you cry, days when you feel sick, and days when your wife will see you at your weakest. It is in these moments that she can help lift you up.

And for wives, we are commanded to respect our husbands. Even though our husbands are not perfect, and we will not always agree with their every move, the art of respect involves putting pride aside, biting your tongue sometimes and listening to his side. Respect involves being empathetic and trying to ensure that his needs are on the burner too. It implies selflessness.

A Highly sensitive woman knows what vulnerability is- because she feels and thinks deeply. She can utilize this superpower to be her best self as a wife. When you sense that your husband is having a difficult time, rather than brushing it off, use it as an avenue for connection. When you sense that you have hurt him, apologize and put pride aside. A loving husband will see that you are trying to extend an olive branch, and he will put his pride aside too. This type of mutual respect helps to continue to build trust, intimacy and closeness.

Take a moment to ask yourself how you feel about vulnerability currently in your marriage. Are you open to ask for what you want? Or are you hiding? Is pride a factor in your marriage, or are you willing to peel off the layers so your spouse can see you? If vulnerability is still a struggle in your marriage, reach out to me- a Black therapist in Houston.

Why Asking for What You Need Doesn’t Make You Weak: Debunking the Myth of "Self-Sufficiency"

We also are urged not to do anything out of “Selfish ambition” or “Vain conceit.” We are to “Value others more than yourself.” (Philippians 2:3-4). This means within the context of marriage, your spouse is your priority. You are not so focused on yourself that you forget your spouse. Rather, there is room for you to seek ways to meet your spouse’s emotional needs too. Sometimes we are going through such a difficult time that we forget that our spouses even exist. If both parties are so focused on the other’s needs, the marriage will naturally be a success. But the problem is we clamor for our way to prevail, without considering our spouse.

But we know that we do not always live up to the above ideals. So when you find that you are struggling in your marriage, when the pride has taken hold of you, when the vulnerability has dried up, and you feel like you just can’t take it anymore, it is time to reach out to your spouse. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, it speaks to the importance of two people working together, supporting one another, helping each other up if they fall and keeping each other warm when they are cold. You are not meant to run your marital race alone. Marriage is a team sport and this is the ultimate goal of Christian marriage counseling in Houston.

As a Christian marriage counselor in Houston, I find that people are always communicating their needs to their spouses. The problem is that their spouses either don’t understand their style of communication, or their style of communication is much too harsh and off-putting to the spouse. Here is a simple way to ask for what you need.

  • Take some time to actually ask yourself what you need. Focus on what emotions are coming up for you and what your spouse can do to support you.

  • Pick an appropriate time when you and your spouse aren’t distracted, frustrated or busy.

  • Let your spouse know that you require his/her undivided attention to discuss something important. If you desire eye contact, please say so.

  • Use this simple framework: “I feel [insert feeling] because [state why clearly and directly]. Here is what I need [state the need plainly.” For example “I feel sad because we no longer have date nights. What I need is a monthly date night where we put our phones away and talk about us.”

    You might feel weird the first few times you practice, but after a while, it will begin to feel comfortable for both you and your spouse. Vulnerability is a strength because it helps you control your anger and other big emotions. Vulnerability is also the only path to true connection in your marriage.

How to Express Your Needs Without Guilt: Practical Tips for Communication

How you say things is sometimes even more important than what you say. In a healthy marriage, you should be able to state your opinions clearly, however you should keep your spouse’s feelings and needs in mind. Proverbs 15:1 states “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.“ A big part of being a married Christian is being able to be self controlled in your speech. Your words can either tear a person up of break him/her down. Choose life always. If you feel as if both you and your spouse are too heated or hurt for a calm exchange, then save your words for after things have calmed down.

“I statements” are very helpful when you are trying to express yourself without having your partner feel like you are blaming him. Putting the focus on you helps your husband better understand what you need and what is going on internally for you, rather than wasting your energy on blame games and defensiveness strategies. Instead of saying “You are a liar,” You can say “I felt hurt when I was told that the game was cancelled, even though it was still on.” The latter sounds a lot softer and is less likely to instigate trouble.

Remember that vulnerability is the only path to connection in marriage. When you are stating your feelings, put aside the self talk that worries about being misunderstood or rejected. One great way to get your spouse to better understand your perspective or emotions is to use the speaker/listener format. When you are speaking, your spouse’s job is to listen to understand- not listen to respond.

After you have spoken, ask your spouse to reflect back what he has heard, so that you both ensure that he heard you accurately. If he reflects back inaccurately, rather than arguing or saying “You never listen,” just simply correct him and have him reflect once again. It is a lesson in listening, patience, maturity and vulnerability. You’ll hear a lot about patience and vulnerability during Christian marriage counseling in Houston.

It is very common for Highly sensitive people to feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, tired and like shutting down when they are involved in high conflict situations, so here are some statements for you so that your spouse will know when it’s time for a time out or when to bring things down:

  • I feel overwhelmed.

  • I’m scared because our voices are raised.

  • I’m too tired from my long day at work to have this discussion now. Can we have it when we wake up so we a both refreshed?

  • I want to be able to have a respectful conversation with you, but I see we are too heated. Let’s take a 30-minute time out and regroup.

  • I need some more time to process what we have just discussed. Can you please give me an hour?

  • I’m overwhelmed and I’d like some alone time to decompress.

As a Black therapist in Houston, one of my greatest joys is helping couples restore warmth, softness, communication, friendship and intimacy in their marriages.

The Power of Faith-Based Therapy: Healing and Growth in Christian Marriage Counseling

Marriage is not innately difficult. The problem is that it has been given a bad rap. I find that most couples either have never witnessed a healthy marriage, or they were never taught how to have a healthy, open communication style that is devoid of selfishness and defensiveness. It is my job as a Christian therapist in Houston to help you heal from past hurts and trauma that you have experienced in your marriage. We serve a God who is full of compassion and grace, and so it is our job to learn how to have compassion and grace with our spouse as he/she is working through past hurt and pain. Part of the process also involves admitting your mistakes, apologizing and making it better. If two committed people are able to learn the foundational skills for marriage, it will e smooth sailing for the most part.

As a Black therapist in Houston, I am able to take your background, personalities, cultural norms, idiosyncrasies, Christian values and emotional needs into consideration when we are working together. I know that no two marriages are the same, which is why I dig deeply and get to know you and your spouse before trying to fix anything. My goal is to uproot longstanding problems so that the same old problems stop coming up. I am aware that most couples are having the same issues over and over again.

I give you a safe space to process emotions and break through communication barriers. There is something about having a third party who is not a friend, really listen to you, teach you how to listen and hep you communicate all the things you have buried for years. My job as a Christian marriage counselor in Houston isn't to throw scriptures at you, to assume about your life or preach to you. Rather, my job is to take a deep look at your marriage, figure what is working, as well as what isn’t, then give you practical tools to fix what is broken. You will essentially be creating a new culture in your marriage. Therapy is a tool God can use for healing and to create stronger marriage relationships.

Ready to Take the Next Step? Scheduling Your Free Consultation with a Christian Therapist in Houston

If you have been experiencing communication issues, trust issues, frustration, hurt and pain in your marriage, do not wait any longer. I’m quite sure you have tried everything you have at your disposal to make things work. It might be time to reach out to a Christian marriage therapist in Houston who is equipped with the skills, training and experience to improve your marriage before things worsen. In addition to the above, my job is to also provide you with the spiritual and emotional support. Because I know that you want to run your household the biblical way. I know it is important that you are rooted in your values. And that is exactly what therapy with me is.

If you’re a bit nervous to dive into marriage therapy, that’s okay. We can schedule a free 15-minute consultation call in which I find out a but more about your needs, your areas of struggle and what you’re looking for in a therapist. I also give you the opportunity to ask questions about me, my process, my experience, my practice- or pretty much whatever it is you need to know. During the call, you, your spouse and I can decide whether or not we think we are a great fit. Because the single most important factor in the success of therapy isn’t in the therapist’s degree, but it lies in the goodness of fit between the therapist and the client. My approach is gentle, but firm. And I do individualize every session to meet your needs.

Are you ready to strengthen your marriage through faith-based support? Schedule a free 15-minute consultation with a Black therapist in Houston today and begin your journey towards deeper connection and understanding.

About Me

My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.

Many of my clients are:

Highly sensitive people

High performing women

People with insomnia

Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust

If you’re ready to take the next steps, click here.

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Lost in Translation? How Christian Marriage Counseling in Houston Helps HSP Wives Bridge the Communication Gap

Struggling to feel heard in your Christian marriage? Many HSP wives feel dismissed. Christian marriage counseling in Houston offers faith-based empathy to bridge the gap. A Black therapist in Houston can help you reconnect—heart to heart. Read my full blog.

The Silent Struggle: Why Highly Sensitive Wives Feel Unheard in Marriage

People are born highly sensitive. If you ask your parents or childhood caregivers to tell you about yourself when you were a baby, they might say something like “You cried a lot.” “We just couldn’t put you down.” “You were very cuddly and clingy.” Or “We had to make sure the lights and environment were just right, or else you would scream your head off.” Although your caregivers might not even have known what high sensitivity is, they would have just known that there was something special about you.

And special isn’t a bad thing.

I believe that sensitivity is a God designed trait of strength- not weakness. Many highly sensitive people tend to be really close to God and pour out their hearts in prayer and service. They notice the subtle shifts in the environment that no one does. Some of them even tend to see visions and dream dreams. That can’t possibly be a bad thing. It is only perceived as bad when your friends and family members don’t know what to do with you. They notice that you experience emotions on a much deeper level that they do, and because they can’t understand what’s going on, they label you in a negative light.

When you are a HSP who is married to a non-HSP spouse, you can feel deeply overwhelmed, because he can trigger you unknowingly. He comes in, turns on the bright lights, blasts the music and all you want to do is just sit in a dim corner so you can reset your tired nervous system. When you get into a disagreement with him, he wants to settle it there and then, while you want to take your time to process. And when you finally are able to speak about the issue, 2 days have passed. He has completely forgotten about the issue by then. You feel dismissed and invalidated. You value process as opposed to solutions but he just wants to fix things quickly without talking about emotions and soft things.

Christian marriage counseling in Houston provides a safe space to be understood. Your non sensitive husband willl learn a bit more about what high sensitivity is. He will learn to compromise in some other areas, and you in turn, will learn how to communicate without shutting down or dragging the issue for 2 days before coming to resolution. You will learn how to regulate your nervous system so you’re not constantly lashing out.

From Frustration to Connection: Biblical Principles for Healthy Communication

One of my favorite scriptures is found in Proverbs 15:1. It says “A gentle answer turns away wrath.” Sometimes one person has to take a step back and lead with a gentle word. Once 1 person starts to escalate, it’s time for the other person to jump off what I call ‘The crazy train.’ It’s also important to know that it takes 2 to fight. If you speak gently to a yelling person. they have no choice but to deescalate naturally. You can’t argue with yourself.

It is important to express emotions in a way that your husband can understand. Help him understand why certain things are so important to you. Emotions are much more important than settling arguments. Talk about what you are feeling, why you are feeling that way, what you need from him, and also take accountability and apologize for any part you played in creating the problem. Here is an example. Imagine you both had an argument about who forgot to pick up your child from school. Here is what you can say to him:

“I felt panicked when I found out that Stacy was left behind at school. It reminded me of the times when my dad was too busy to take me to the park or come to my recitals. I do apologize for not letting you know that she gets out early today. And I also apologize for yelling at you when I found out she wasn't picked up. What we can do next time is put it all on the family calendar and ensure that we receive notifications the day before. I can also text you the day before so you remember if her schedule changes.”

You see, good communication isn’t just about sorting out disagreements. It is really about emotional connection. When your husband hears you and understands your emotional stance, he is better able to connect with you. He also learns what your triggers are and how to stay away from them. You in turn feel seen, validated and can bring your guard further down.

As a Black therapist in Houston my job is to help bridge the cultural and emotional gap in communication between you and your spouse. Even if you and your spouse grew up in the same environment, you will still face some cultural differences. Because you were raised in different households, you have different personalities and temperaments. I understand the nuances of being a Black immigrant in Houston. But I also help you give language to the way you feel. Together we will construct a marriage that is rich in friendship, low in drawn out disagreements and you will rediscover intimacy.

The Role of a Black Christian Therapist: How Cultural Understanding Strengthens Marriage Counseling

It is important to find a marriage therapist in Houston who understands the Christian faith because your values are grounded in your faith. As a Christian therapist, I incorporate biblical principles so that you can act out your roles in the way that God intended. Shared cultural values and faith matter in therapy so that you do not end up losing your soul as you are in search of marital cohesion. We absolutely do not have to separate your faith from your healing.

As a Black therapist in Houston, I can offer deeper insights into the unique challenges of faith, marriage, and emotional expression. There’s no need for code switching or deep explanations into your life when you work with me- as we already have some cultural commonalities. It is important to feel safe and understood in therapy- especially if you are a highly sensitive woman. Because highly sensitive women often feel misunderstood and invalidated, it can be even more disappointing when they are shut down by therapists. Not only am I a Black immigrant therapist, I also happen to be a highly sensitive woman, so I get it.

Don’t get me wrong though, not all highly sensitive people are the same, so I won’t typecast you or make assumptions about you, but we do share some traits. If you have been struggling in your marriage for years, please don’t fret. Seeking help is a sign that you truly want to move forward. It is not a sign of weakness, but an act of faith and strength.

My job as a marriage therapist in Houston is to also help you and your spouse celebrate your differences without having them become a source of constant frustration and disagreements. You will learn how to communicate in a way that your spouse can understand, and you will also get a deeper feeling of empathy towards your spouse. Empathy is the road towards understanding and deeper intimacy.

Practical Steps to Strengthen Communication with Your Non-HSP Husband

It is absolutely possible to repair the communication problems in your marriage- even if they’ve lingered for years. The first step is willingness. Both of you have to decide that you will start to do things differently. If you feel guilty, scared or apprehensive when you express your feelings to your spouse (I’m not talking about an abusive relationship here), it is important to let your spouse know so that he is gentler with you. Let him know that you sometimes need a little extra time to process your thoights and you would value it if he spent a bit of time listening to your thoights and emotions. Sometimes non-HSP husbands can be so outcome oriented that they completely skip past the listening and unearthing of emotions that HSPs value so much.

Active listening is one of the most important skills to master within a marriage relationship. Active listening simply means when you are listening to your spouse talk, you:

1- Suspend judgement

2- Hold off on everything you want to say

3- Ensure that you are not distracted

4- Listen to every word he/she says

5- Reflect back what you hear with the intention of knowing you might be corrected.

6- Try to really understand his/her point of view before stating yours.

You are essentially playing the role of a court stenographer. You are recording just the facts- your personal thoughts and emotions aren’t important when your spouse is speaking, You will get your turn too. Remember to validate his/her emotions after listening. Validation dosnt’t mean agreement. it simply means you can understand how the situation can trigger certain emotions for your spouse. It helps him/her feel seen.

A simple exercise I have my clients do as a Christian marriage counselor in Houston is to download the Gottman card decks app. it has tons of conversation starters to help you better understand and get used to relating closely with your spouse. It’s a great avenue to get to know your spouse better and to practice active listening skills.

As Christians, we are called to be slow to anger, slow to speak and quick to listen (James 1:19). So the art of active listening isn’t just a therapy gimmick, it’s something we should master as Christians. Learning this skill will help improve understanding in your marriage relationship and improve trust. When your spouse feels heard and validated, it can help bring the walls down and therefore bring you closer.

Take the First Step: Christian Marriage Counseling in Houston Can Help You Feel Heard

If communication is an ongoing problem in your marriage, never fret. You do not have to struggle alone. As a Black therapist in Houston, I provide faith centered and culturally attuned therapy so that you can have the space to heal and grow in your marriage. Take the first step toward a stronger, more connected marriage—schedule your free 15-minute marriage counseling consultation today! I offer virtual therapy services to clients throughout CA and TX.


About Me

My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.

Many of my clients are:

Highly sensitive people

High performing women

People with insomnia

Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust

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Christian Marriage Counseling in Houston: How to Feel Heard When Your Spouse Doesn’t Get Your Sensitivity

Struggling to feel understood in your marriage as a highly sensitive person? My blog offers warm, faith-informed guidance to help you feel heard, even when your spouse doesn’t fully “get” your sensitivity. A gentle invitation to explore deeper connection through Christian support.

When Your Sensitivity Feels Like a Burden in Marriage

Being a highly sensitive woman can be difficult because you get misunderstood in your marriage all the time. Sometimes you just need some time to reflect and decompress, but it can be misunderstood as you being unfriendly or abandoning your family. Sometimes you are overcome with emotions and burst into tears, but your spouse thinks you are weaponzing your emotions. Sometimes you get completely flooded with emotions and shut down, and your spouse and thinks you were trying to avoid talking about the situation.

Sometimes it takes you a while to process through things and so you cannot give a response in the heat of the moment, and this frustrates your spouse. He wants to settle matters now and get things over with, but he feels as if you are slowing things down or always doing things in your own time. He thinks you are selfish.

Simply being you can lead to so many different conflicts. You find yourself being in one conflict or another over and over again and this can lead to emotional exhaustion and resentment. He resents you because he does not understand why you are being difficult. And you resent him because he does not understand you and is trying to force you to talk when you were just not physiologically capable to do so.

Rest easy.

Sensitivity is not a curse. I actually look at it as a God-given strength. It is simply the way you are wired. Once you have a good understanding of who you are, and you’re able to explain how you operate to your husband, the arguments will reduce. You’ll know what you need, learn to ask for what you need and you will then be able to communicate smoother.

The Communication Struggles Between Highly Sensitive Wives and Non-HSP Husbands

If you are married to a non-highly sensitive husband, or a husband who is not very in tune with his emotions, he might struggle to understand your deep emotions, why you “overthink things” and “feel so deeply about things.” He may not understand why you cry at certain times, or why you put so much thought into things that he might cast away. He might not understand why you're so emotionally invested in certain people, or why you are so passionate about your work. This is not a part of you that you can put aside. High sensitivity does come with being deeply empathetic and feeling deeply. And a lot of highly sensitive people also tend to think deeply, which can be translated by others as overthinking.

Some conflict patterns that I notice in the highly sensitive wife/non-highly sensitive husband dynamic is that when an issue happens, the highly sensitive spouse spends a lot of time stewing. In the moment she knows that she feels something deeply, but emotions feel like a whirlwind so she's not able to actually address the issue. Her husband on the other hand has no idea that she is feeling deeply about it. Two days later, after she has processed the issue thoroughly, she brings the issue to her husband who is completely befuddled because he cannot even remember what happened two days ago, let alone does he even know that you were upset. You feel insulted, unseen and disrespected because your feelings went unheard.

Another type of conflict that I see is when you're passionate about something, you think about every single detail. Highly sensitive people tend to be very detail oriented. When they plan something, they are very concerned about the experiences of other people involved in the activity. For example, if a non-highly sensitive person has an appointment at 10 AM, if she leaves the house at 9:30 AM and shows up at 10:05 AM. It will not bother her.

But for the highly sensitive person, she thinks about if the person she is going to meet will feel offended if she shows up after 10 AM. She thinks about how the appointments after her will have to be pushed back because of her lateness. They also sometimes will show up early because they actually need time to feel settled into the appointment before walking in at 10 AM. All of these things are going on in the background without the knowledge of her non-sensitive husband. So while it may seem like highly sensitive people do too much, they have so much on their minds all the time.

Christian marriage counseling in Houston can help you bridge the communication gap. Many people struggle with communication simply because they have not taken the time to actually understand the other person's point of view. Many of us assume that others think just like us, and then we project our feelings and thoughts onto them. When we find out that they're not thinking like us, we get offended.

But during marriage counseling, it is my job to teach you how to be an active listener, how to actually reflect back what you heard your spouse say, how to validate her feelings, and how to respond in a way that she can understand. So this world is no longer just about you, you are actively learning to love your spouse the way she deserves to be loved and you are a lot more sensitive to her needs. She will also learn how to view the world from your actual perspective so that she can communicate in a way that you can receive. You both start to speak a common language that you can understand. No more persistent quarrels and silly arguments.

Why a Black Christian Therapist in Houston Can Help You Feel Seen and Understood

When you are a Black professional woman working in the corporate world, sometimes you already feel misunderstood just because of your background and the differences in skin color. So as a Black professional who is highly sensitive, you are trying to not only maneuver a healthy marriage, but trying to reach your goals and dreams. It is important that your therapist has a solid cultural and spiritual understanding of who you are. Because you don't want unnecessary micro aggressions and assumptions in your marriage therapy session. You don't want to have to spend time explaining who you are and what you do. You want to feel comfortable in the therapy space and do whatever comes naturally to you. You don't have to worry about code switching or putting on a front. You simply can just be you.

Christian counseling helps you not only focuses on your emotions and your relationship challenges, but we also ensure that we are putting Jesus at the center of it all. We will ensure that your marriage is values driven. We ensure that your marriage is being built according to biblical principles and you can create a legacy of love and spiritual growth for your family. No it's not my job to indoctrinate you or to tell you what the Bible says, it is simply my job to present scripture to you that you can take to the Holy Spirit for further interpretation. When you work with a Black therapist in Houston who aligns with your values and experiences, you don't have to spend so much time hiding or fighting or pretending to be someone that you're not. You can simply just be.

Embracing Your Sensitivity While Building a Stronger Marriage

A great tool that I use with my marriage counseling clients in Houston is the speaker/listener format. You and your spouse have to learn to slow communication down when you're about to talk about something important. Timing is everything. So pick a time in which neither of you will be distracted, tired, sick or busy. Let your spouse know that you would like to set up a meeting. This doesn't have to feel formal, but it does need to be treated like an important part of your day.

The person who has something to say should be given the floor and your spouse will be the listener. Your job is to explain to him what is going on from your perspective. He doesn't have to understand your perspective fully, but he does have to listen. Every now and then, pause so that your spouse can reflect back what he heard you say. This gives you time to actually process what you are saying, and it also helps your spouse ensure that he is hearing you correctly. This will reduce the feeling of being dismissed or unheard.

The listener’s job is to listen of course, try to be empathetic and put himself in his wife's shoes. Ask questions about how the other person felt when the situation occurred, what triggered her and why she feels the way that she does. After all of the above questions, validate her feelings. Validation can be something as simple as "I understand why you would feel this way." When the speaker is done talking, and feels heard, then your spouse will have a chance to state his point of view while you listen and repeat the above steps.

Remember that patience is a fruit of the Spirit. As a married couple, it is important to master healthy and effective communication so that you can strengthen your emotional connection. It is definitely possible with some practice. Christian marriage counseling in Houston helps you turn conflict into deeper intimacy. We do this by showing you how to lean into what your spouse has to say, teaching you how to become a great listener, which then helps your spouse feel seen and heard. When your spouse feels seen and heard, she's able to trust you, the friendship deepens and emotional connection strengthens.

Take the First Step Toward Feeling Heard in Your Marriage

Did you know that the average couple waits about 6 years after the initial marital struggle begins before seeking help from a professional? Don’t let this be you. A stronger connection and deeper intimacy are possible with the right support. As a Black therapist in Houston, it is my job to better understand your unique needs, so I can guide you through faith-based solutions. You deserve to feel heard and valued. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation today for marriage counseling in Houston and take the first step toward a stronger, more connected marriage.




About Me

My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.

Many of my clients are:

Highly sensitive people

High performing women

People with insomnia

Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust

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Using Love Languages to Strengthen Communication and Resolve Conflict in Your Christian Marriage

Struggling to feel heard in your Christian marriage? Discover how understanding each other’s love languages can ease conflict and deepen connection. This warm guide offers practical steps for healing and growth. 💬❤️ Read my full blog today.
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Understanding the Five Love Languages: A Key to Resolving Conflict in Christian Marriages

The five love languages is a concept that was introduced by Gary Chapman. Mr. Chapman states that everyone has a love tank. To be connected and happy in a relationship, one’s love tank must be full. The way to fill up one’s love tank is to love the person according to his/her own unique love language. Some people have one love language, and others might have a primary love language as well as a secondary love language. A love language is simply the way a person wants to receive love. He states that everyone has a love language – including children. For a marriage to be healthy, and for emotional needs to be met, it is imperative that each person learns to speak the love language of their spouse.

Relationships often experience struggle when your partner is loving you according to his own love language rather than taking time to learn how to love you according to your own love language. So then he ends up getting frustrated because he feels like he's pouring time and energy into you, but he’s not receiving the desired response. You also feel drained because you feel like you're pouring time and energy into him and nothing is being poured back into you. Your love tank begins to empty.

Sometimes people kick against the idea of love languages, but if you look at Ephesians 4: 2 we are commanded to '‘Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” What is a better way to deal with your partner in love than to take your time to understand what makes him tick and to help him receive love in the way that he is naturally wired? It is essentially an act of service and humility. If you are having a difficult time with this, marriage counseling in Houston can help. My job is to help you learn new skills to be able to love your partner in the way that he or she needs. No judgment, just two people trying to grow together.

Understanding the Power of Love Languages in a Christ-Centered Marriage

If you're wondering what the five love languages are, they are:

Words of affirmation: Verbally expressing one’s love through validation, appreciation and encouragement. These are people who send text messages to say they are thinking about you, they might leave cute notes or cards around the house and they also in conversation, regularly talk about what they appreciate about you.

Acts of service: Doing tangible things for others like picking up something from the store, cooking, cleaning, giving a massage. It involves serving your spouse in a physical way.

Physical touch: These are people who like to put an arm on the other person’s shoulder, hold hands, kiss, cuddle or just causally touch people when laughing. They don’t even do it on purpose. It just happens.

Receiving gifts: People who like to receive gifts also enjoy giving gifts. These gifts might not even be expensive. It’s the thought that counts. Sometimes they’ll make homemade treats or crafts to show their love.

Quality time: They want to physically be in the room with you, engage in conversation, share ideas and make eye contact. Merely being in a room isn’t enough. They need your undivided attention to feel loved.

If you don’t know you and your spouse’s love languages, head over to www.the5lovelanguages.com and take the free test.

If you think to yourself, “Why is all of this important?” Let's refer to Ephesians 5:25 which says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her“. And 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.“

Christian marriage counseling in Houston can help couples apply love languages effectively so that you and your spouse can start to feel the love again.

Why Your Love Language Might Not Match Your Spouse’s—and That’s Okay

One of the biggest challenges in marriages is feeling misunderstood by your spouse. Many people will marry someone who has a love language that is different from theirs, and that is perfectly OK. It is important to celebrate each other's differences and actually utilize these differences to make both the marriage and the family stronger. To love someone in humility is to look at yourself as a student. Even if you have known your spouse for decades, it is important to remember that your spouse may grow, change, go through different experiences and might be a different person today than who he was 20 years ago. That being said learning a love language is simply just a way of giving and receiving love. When your spouse knows that you are loving him or her outside of your own love language, it is the natural instinct to reciprocate.

And when you think about the love that Jesus had for us, He really didn't gain that much by dying on the cross or suffering on this earth. He poured into us so that we might have life. He paid a debt that He did not owe. So there was nothing in it for Him. But because we have received the ultimate form of redemption, because we have seen what the ultimate sacrifice looks like, our response to His agape love is to love Him unconditionally as well. So love begets love. Our faith requires us to bring in humility and to think of others as being higher than ourselves. That includes our spouses too. So we must love our spouses fully without thinking about what we will get in return. If both husband and wife make this their goal, the marriage will be stronger.

Using Love Languages to Navigate Conflict with Grace and Understanding

Unmet needs often lead to discontent, arguments and even resentment in marriage. There is sometimes a silent, but mighty tension that just fills the spaces of the marriage. Each person gets short tempered, sad, and sometimes unable to communicate what he or she needs.

Disagreements need to be handled with love and patience. Yes, even when you feel like you have been wronged. James 1: 19-20 says “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.“ The anger that James is referring to is vengeance- wanting to get revenge for a wrong you have suffered.

To turn things around, think of addressing the problem using your spouse’s love language. If your spouse loves quality time, set some time aside for him or her when you can provide your undivided attention. Really listen to what your spouse needs before addressing your own needs. To do this with physical touch, you can go for a walk together with hands held. This helps him or her understand that even though you might be at odds temporarily, you still desire connection. For gift lovers, present something thoughtful to them before you have a conversation about your needs. You don’t have to break the bank. Homemade gifts count too. For acts of service people, do something nice for them- wash their car, pick up something they need from the store, etc. This can help to prime them before having an important conversation. And words of affirmation people really need to hear about how much you appreciate them, before diving into unmet needs.

A Black therapist in Houston can provide culturally competent guidance in resolving conflicts. Sometimes you feel confused about how to actually approach the situation. My job is to teach you effective communication skills, help you rebuild your friendship and get back to the place of passion and togetherness you once had. It takes a level of patience and understanding, but with practice, it becomes easier.

Practical Ways to Speak Your Spouse’s Love Language Daily

Love languages can seem complicated- especially if you are married to someone who doesn’t share the same love language as you. To make it easier for you, actually ask your spouse what he or she would appreciate. Each week, say “How can I help you feel loved this week?” Or “Is there some way I’ve shown love to you in the past that you really appreciate?'‘ It’s the small, meaningful actions that reinforce your love and appreciation.

As you start to implement love languages into your marriage, also ensure that there is a level of consistency. For something to become a habit, you do need a few weeks of practice. It has to be intentional. Make it your priority. Both you and your spouse need to make it your number 1 priority. every week, seek to help your spouse see that you love him. Ask for regular feedback where you can celebrate wins and improvement in your marriage.

Prayer is a great tool to help you involve the Holy Spirit in your work as a couple. Ask Him for guidance, for strength, and for counsel as you both are on your journey to love each other well. Never assume what your spouse needs. Ask him or her.

Because couples often get stuck in a rut and tend to move back into old habits, a Christian marriage counselor in Houston can help youu build habits of love and respect while providing education and accountability. You will learn how to resolve conflict, strengthen your friendship and continue to grow together.

Finding Support: How a Christian Marriage Counselor Can Help You and Your Spouse Grow Together

If this all sounds too much for you or if this sounds like just the thing that you need, then it is time to seek Christian marriage counseling in Houston. A skilled marriage counselor can help you learn how to implement both you and your spouse’s love languages into your daily interactions so that you can improve friendship, deepen your connection, which could help with better conflict resolution and intimacy. Please note that love languages alone will not solve all your marital problems, but they sure will help as you build a new foundation in your marriage. Seeking help is not a sign that your marriage has failed. Seeking help is actually a sign that you have faith that your marriage can thrive once again and you are willing to learn the necessary skills to revive it.

Remember that faith without works is dead.

Want to strengthen your marriage through faith and personalized guidance? Schedule a free 15-minute consultation for Christian marriage counseling in Houston with me- A Black Christian therapist in Houston.



About Me

My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.

Many of my clients are:

Highly sensitive people

High performing women

People with insomnia

Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust

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